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Seek Spiritual Wellness to Create Balance in Your Life

Fun in the sun can be spiritually enlightening. Summer is a time for more than just meaningless activities with your friends. Instead, this summer, focus on the sun and its importance to your spiritual growth, its transformational meaning of warmth, light, and power as it relates to one’s spirituality.  

Are you searching for deeper spiritual meaning in your life? You’re not alone; the hectic demands of life, being isolated because of the pandemic, have made so many people feel disconnected. Perhaps what you need is a spiritual connection to bring about a sense of balance and completion in your life.

Many people confuse spirituality with religion and believe that spiritual wellness can only come from religious beliefs. Spiritual growth means more than simply sitting in church, attending a class, or meditating. Spiritual growth can come from simple pleasures like a few minutes of contemplative thought about your life, past, future, or anything that means a lot to you.

However, spiritual balance comes from more than subscribing to a religion. Some people seek religion for their spirituality, but spirituality can also be achieved without a specific religion.

How to Develop Spiritual Wellness

Essentially, developing spiritual wellness means working toward identifying what you believe in and how well those beliefs can give you inner strength through even the roughest patches in life.

When you’ve developed spiritual wellness, you can:

  • Respond to others honestly, regardless of the situation.
  • Express the values that you uphold and stand behind them at all times.
  • Understand the meaning of life and become in tune with the purpose of your existence.
  • Lead a fulfilling life.

How do we achieve spiritual wellness? Each of us has to develop our spirituality in our own way. Your chosen path may take you on a different journey than another’s.

When you’re ready to begin your journey toward spiritual wellness, consider the following suggestions:

  1. Question the purpose of your existence. Ask yourself a few key questions as you go on a quest to achieve balance through spiritual wellness. Self-exploration is the key to developing your spiritual balance. Ask yourself:
  2. What defines me?
  3. What is the purpose of my existence on the planet?
  4. What things, people, and ideologies should I be committed to?
  5. What do I want out of life?
  6. Connect to what’s meaningful. After you’ve answered those questions, your next mission is to connect to and identify with the things in life that you want to represent you. Do you believe in helping others? Is it your interest to sacrifice the physical aspects of life to gain spiritual strength? Put the answers to the questions to work.
  7. Contribute to a charity if you’re inclined to help others.
  8. Go on a fasting mission to gain endurance and clarity of mind.
  9. Test your limits. When you take on challenges, you expand your understanding of a whole new myriad of possibilities for you. Testing your limits could involve many things. Here are some examples:
  10. Take on a physical challenge that you wouldn’t take on ordinarily due to fear of failure, disappointment, or the challenge itself.
  11. Make a decision based on your beliefs even though you know it may not be popular. 
  12. Have the strength to stand by those convictions even if others reject them.

Understanding the importance of food and your spirituality. Consuming poor-quality food can tarnish the body and the soul, causing brain fog, depression, weight gain, gut dysbiosis, hormonal imbalance, etc. This results in dis-ease that weakens our body’s frequency to connect with nature and the universe.

Becoming spiritually strong involves believing in something. It consists of identifying your purpose and working towards achieving that purpose. Most importantly, it consists of becoming truly happy with your life.

Ultimately, the balance you seek will come when you satisfy your spiritual needs. By taking the steps outlined here, you can put yourself on the right path to spiritual fulfillment.

Your body, just like your mind, is capable of much more than you can imagine. When you use your body, think about what you’re doing. Live in the moment. Take the time to enjoy what you can do, and instead of taking it for granted.

Achieving spiritual wellness isn’t an overnight process. With persistence and dedication, you’ll find yourself connecting with another aspect of your existence that you never realized. More and more things will become more evident to you, and you’ll start to experience true inner peace, no matter what challenges you’ve faced!

Stop the Self-Sabotage And Learn How to Love Yourself

Every day, almost everywhere we look, we’re bombarded with someone else’s idea of perfection. We’re told, “You need this,” “You should wear this,” and “You need to be this way or that way,” but no one tells us that we’re just fine.

In this society of “whoever has the most toys wins,” no one does.

We do that to ourselves with negative thinking about our bodies, wanting more things, and trying to make ourselves something we aren’t. We watch TV and movies and see perfection: the perfect romance and the dashing hero saving the damsel, where everyone is beautiful, heroic, with money and perfect.

That’s fiction. We need to learn to accept ourselves and enjoy the good things we have in our own lives.That’s reality and the only way to recall one’s self. 

Here are a few areas where you may be comparing yourself to others. You’ll find out how to get away from the “societal norm” or “societal impressions” so you can be on your way to loving yourself for who you are.

Your Body

Hollywood would think that everyone is tanned, skinny, fit, and has perfect hair, teeth, and skin. , but it’s all a facade! You can’t compare yourself to that imagined picture of beauty. 

Your personal best from inside you. Write down the things that you love about yourself. If you’re overweight and unhappy about it, then do something! Change how you eat or get out and walk a little every day. Not everyone is a supermodel, nor is everyone supposed to be.

Your Career

If you’re stuck in a job you hate, find a new one. If your work is making you physically ill, it’s time to move on. That misery you feel will carry over to the rest of your life. 

Figure out what you love doing, and then find a way to get paid to do it. It’s not easy, and it might not happen overnight, but if you love what you do, your entire life outlook improves.

Your Possessions

We’re bombarded with ads for stuff, and they all look so amazing. We find ourselves wanting more and more things, but do we need them? Possessions won’t fill any personal void you have or provide you with true happiness. Many of us are too busy focusing on our outward glow but have failed to be mindful of our inward glow; that is, health, wellness, and mental clarity. 

What is it you’re missing in your life? Figure that out and then fill that need, but be honest and realistic with yourself about it.

Your Relationship 

If you’re in a healthy relationship and you’re genuinely in love for several decades, then you’re very blessed. In reality, as a relationship goes on for months and years, it may not be that whirlwind of romance anymore, and you can’t always expect your partner to be breathtaking.

Yet, no matter what you see on TV or social media, a relationship always takes work and sacrifices. Think of ways to make your relationship feel new and exciting, and bring joy in the fact that you have someone who loves you.

Maintaining a good marriage is a lot like baking a good cake: the outcome is 70% the quality of the ingredients, 25% the skill of the baker, and 5% luck. Therefore, most of the requirements for a long and happy marriage are within your control, so it pays to work at keeping your relationship healthy.

Your Past

The past is just that – the past. You can’t do anything about history except learn from it. You can’t base your life around a singular event, no matter how great or terrible it was. All you can do is remember and learn from it. 

Many of us are holding on to so much baggage from the past, we have not properly healed. In order for us to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves or others we have to heal from the past. 

Don’t let something that happened eat you up and destroy your future. Instead, think about how you can become better from it, and then commit to move forward.

Love Yourself

Lastly, remember that you are who you are. Everyone is supposed to be different; it’s what makes you unique. There’s no one in the world who is exactly like you, which makes you special, unique, and unforgettable.

You’re probably familiar with self-help books and talk show hosts who tell you to love yourself, but you may be wondering how to go about that. While your relationship with yourself is the most crucial connection in your life, it’s easy to forget about nurturing it.

However, self-love and compassion are too crucial to neglect because they shape your experiences and relationships with others.

Protect your health and wellbeing by making positive changes in the way you think about and treat yourself.

Changing the Way You Think about Yourself

Maybe you’re hard on yourself, or you’re so busy with external obligations that you rarely consider your priorities. Looking inward could help you to value yourself more.

These strategies will help you to think more highly of yourself:

  1. Accept yourself. Know that you are worthy of love and respect just the way you are at this moment. Embrace yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.
  2. Clarify your purpose. Invent your definition of success. Ask yourself what a meaningful life means to you, even if that answer changes over time.
  3. Talk yourself up. How do you speak to yourself? Choose words that are encouraging and uplifting. Use your internal dialogue to build your confidence and manage your emotions.
  4. Offer forgiveness. Let go of the past so that you can move on. Take any decisions that you regret and turn them into opportunities to learn. Make amends where possible and resolve to handle things more constructively in the future.
  5. Avoid comparisons. Facebook didn’t invent social comparisons, but social media has increased the potential for envy and inferiority complexes. Try competing with your last performance instead of living up to someone else’s standards. You’ll accomplish more if you dare to be yourself.
  6. Think positive. Looking on the bright side and being able to laugh at yourself makes you even more loveable. It also helps you to manage stress and deal with difficult circumstances.

Changing the Way, You Treat Yourself

Do your actions match your beliefs? You might say you love yourself, but your efforts could be sending a different message.

Try these techniques to treat yourself kindlier:

  1. Practice self-care. Develop habits that keep your mind and body fit and strong. Go to bed early and exercise each day. Eat a balanced diet and watch your weight.
  2. Pick friends wisely. Surround yourself with family and friends who encourage and support you. Cultivate close relationships with others who share your goals. Engage in deep conversations where you can share your feelings and receive validation.
  3. Pursue your passions. Identify the activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Block out time each day for something you love, whether it’s a task related to your job or something you do in your leisure time.
  4. Set goals. Give yourself something to strive for. Working towards realistic and challenging goals builds your confidence as you add to your achievements.
  5. Maintain boundaries. Know your limits so you can define what behavior you consider acceptable. That may include physical limitations such as needing your own space and psychological boundaries such as being entitled to your feelings and opinions.
  6. Advocate for yourself. Once you understand your needs, you can communicate them to others. You’ll grow more skillful as you practice being direct and tactful in letting someone know if they cross your boundaries.
  7. Seek support. Ask for what you need. Let others know precisely what they can do, whether you’re looking for practical assistance like pitching in with housework or just a friendly ear to listen while you sort out your feelings.

Loving yourself can help you to enjoy more happiness, overcome challenges, and build healthier relationships with others. Make it a habit to treat yourself with kindness and respect.

Healing to Live Your Best Life

Life can take you through bad situations that you think you’d never come out on the other side? Perhaps you’re still holding onto past grief or disappointment. If you are, then it’s time to learn how to let go of past pain. You deserve to let it go and know how to move forward with your life.

Holding onto past pain and anguish is a kind of self-inflicted torture that can cause serious health risks as well as emotional scarring. The truth is, when you cling to the past, you’re internally changing your present.

How can something you’ve kept inside for so long just be let go? It’s not an easy task, but it can be done with a bit of effort and self-reflection.

Pain and trauma affect our emotions. Our emotions control much of what happens throughout our individual lives. Emotions are part of our internal drive to change the way we feel.

Emotional states affect our daily attitudes, thoughts, and behaviors. If we don’t control our emotional states, many other aspects of our lives will be out of control.

First, we must recognize and accept our truths. When you accept your truth, let go of the past or what has caused us pain, it will better equip you to master your emotions. Mastering your emotional states is an essential element to achieving success, contentment, fulfillment, and happiness.

We must First Accept our Inner Truths! Everyone has one—even you.

Many of us are resistant to change, and the most challenging change is self truth-telling.

We all now live in a world of Social media. We live through our screens, and many of us feel the need to pretend to do and have and ignore or suppress our inner truths.

Some run from self-truth all of their lives, and others struggle but still go through the demanding process of self-truth. Most changes work out for the best in time; you can solve inner conflicts with yourself and conflicts with those that you love if you trust the process.

Conversely, you might be afraid that your truth-telling will create no change at all. But remember, your truth-telling is guaranteed to cause change, if only in you—perhaps the most powerful change of all. The best way to honor yourself is by beginning the process of finding your truth, embracing it, and living a life based on it. 

The hard reality is this; if you cannot be true to yourself, you cannot be true to others or even in a relationship. Resisting our own truths has cause many failed relationships where we have blamed our partners for own failure to look deep inside ourselves. Unfortunately, this cycle continues throughout our lives and in our multiple failed relationships. 

There are individual differences in what people decide to do with their truth. What enables one person to experience personal trauma and tragedy and then decide to use it to their advantage in life, while that same situation makes another person feel like life is not worth living?

Some of the most incredible, happy people have experienced great personal tragedies. Why? Because they’re not living in the past, their mind is in the present, living their best life.

It’s easy to get so caught up in the past that you lose the ability to enjoy the life you’re living right now.

Your Power Of The Present

The first thing you should do to take action toward a better life is to realize the present moment’s power. You can truly come to this realization in different ways, but meditation is the most popular and widely accepted method.

Meditation allows you to clear your mind. It’s refreshing to focus on the present moment when you find the time to sit down and relax without any worries about the past or future.

This personal reflection time will allow you to sort out your inner thoughts. On the flip side, take note of the number of times your mind tries to distract you from the present moment. You’ll be surprised to see just how often your mind steals the present moment from you to dwell on negative things from the past.

Enjoying The Journey and trusting the Divine Process

Many of us fail to see the divinity in our lives. The social distractions, pain, disappointments make us forget we are living divine beings. Your life journey is all you have. Your goals are essential, but the path you take toward your goals yields many fruits. You must be willing to enjoy your life and live divinely and consciously, even if you haven’t yet reached your goals.

If you have a lofty goal, such as becoming a doctor or the CEO of a large company, realize that it will take much planning and years of experience. Once you reach your goal, you may feel fulfilled, but your life mustn’t be unhappy and miserable until you get there!

You can remain happy by concentrating on the present and enjoying the journey. As you make positive progress towards your goal, you’ll know that you’re always one step closer.

Live The Life You Want Now

Living through the pandemic has shown everyone that life is too short, and there is no time better than now! Whether you maintain complete focus on your ultimate goals or not, it’s important to live the life you desire right now. You don’t know how many days you’ve been allotted on this earth, and you owe it to yourself to make the most of them!

Keep these tips in mind:

Know what’s holding you back-What are you holding onto and why? Identify the things you’re keeping inside that you shouldn’t be.

Getting your emotions out in the open- Being open about you emotions can help you get over any resentment or anger you may be feeling. Bottling up your emotions is never a good thing. Let it all out in a constructive way and you’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.

Forgive and forget– It is a lot harder than it sounds, but forgiving someone who has hurt you can be extremely therapeutic. Strive to let things stay in the past and don’t allow them to affect your present. Once you learn to forgive the people who’ve caused your pain, you will find it far easier to heal and move on with your life.

Even on busy days, take at least some time for yourself- Many people fail to take at least 30 minutes for themselves. We must always be mindful of our body’s need to reset and recharge.

Don’t waste your time on people who don’t believe in you and your abilities- A lot of times in life, we carry the weight of people who dont believe in our skills and what we can accomplish. We must let that dead weight go! It’s holding you back!

Adopt a “glass is half full” mentality– We must develop our power of optimism. Having an attitude and spirit on the belief and hope the outcome of some specific endeavor, or outcomes in general, will be positive, favorable, and desirable.

Your best life is out there, ready for you to claim it! Be completely honest with yourself, with your feelings and your truth. Make a plan, and stick with it until you’ve arrived. The life you desire is attainable and within your reach. Do you have the courage to make it happen?

Let the past be the past; take a chance on feeling happy and fulfilled—Chase after your dream life!